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My Kids Live Here

3 Jul

A few days ago I was perusing Pinterest, not really looking for anything in particular.  I started looking at the home decor pins and then, out of sheer curiosity, searched “kids rooms”.  I scrolled through the various pictures of themed bedrooms, incredible one-of-a-kind beds and rooms with things like swings, slides and rock walls (my kids would never sleep!)  I began to think about my kids bedrooms and my friends kids bedrooms.  How eclectic they were, even when they had a theme.  These catalog rooms as I like to call them, are unrealistic!  I cannot imagine giving my kids one theme, for instance.  “Oh you like cars?  Ok, we will have a car shaped bed that you will only use for a short time, car bedding and fancy curtains with car tiebacks.  Maybe we will paint a road on your floor too.  Oh and you can’t hang anything on your walls because I have meticulously placed car artwork and that is all that can be hung.  And don’t take out any toys.”

I know the majority of these rooms are staged by designers . .  . but they set unattainable goals for parents wishing to give there little cherubs their dream room.  A room that the kids will be so enamored with they will just sit on their perfectly made castle-shaped bed and stare at the walls, smiling for hours.   As parents, we want our kids to have everything.  We want them to be cozy and happy.  Maybe we, even if secretly, want to one-up that snooty mom from the PTA who brags about her kids and how they have beds shaped like tree houses or pizza or whatever.   Maybe we want to be that Pinterest mom or dad.  The one who blogs about there immaculate home and pins pictures of perfect rooms and fabulous DIYs that never go awry.

Maybe not.  I don’t have that dream of having the”perfect” home.  My home is perfect for my family.  It’s not fancy or designed to belong in a Better Homes and Gardens spread.  I know I’ve shared pictures in the past of the boys rooms when I’ve done projects in them, but I wanted to share my lived in real rooms.  I didn’t stage them for you, I didn’t take out all their toys before I snapped the pictures.  These aren’t fake rooms, these are real rooms that belong to real boys.  They did clean their rooms last night, so at least you don’t have to see Big A’s dirty laundry all over the floor or the entire contents of Little C’s books shelf scattered across the room because he was looking for a specific book.

First, here are the “catalog rooms” for comparison:

Where are the stuffed animals?  Blankets?  Anything?!

Where are the stuffed animals? Blankets? Anything?!

Notice the only objects in the room and on the walls fit the nautical theme

Notice the only objects in the room and on the walls fit the nautical theme

See what I mean?  kids don’t live in these rooms!  Not unless they are extremely OCD and never leave a single out of place ever.

Here are the boys lived in rooms:

It's a bedroom a kids can actually go in!

It’s a bedroom a kids can actually go in!

Notice the lack of a theme?  Well a few years ago it was loosely Star Wars.  About a year and a 1/2 ago I painted the Lego Ninajas for the wall.  For his birthday I painted the creeper from Minecraft. . .  so it’s a mishmash.

He’s got his own style, you know . . . that of a 9yr old boy!  He hangs stuff on the walls with tape, usually leaves his soccer uniform on the floor, stinky socks and all.  On the little wall shelves hang various medals from sports and school.  A few trophies on the ledge.   There are birthday balloons left over from his party a few weeks ago.  This is not a catalog room.   It’s my son’s room.

 

Look, stuff hanging on the walls!

Look, stuff hanging on the walls!

A cluttered mix of toys and things.  So, so many things in this room

A cluttered mix of toys and things. So, so many things in this room

Little C’s room went from baby to big boy.  He sleeps with just shy of a thousand stuffed animals, his “guys”, and way too many blankets!  His bookshelf is a cluttered mess!   His cubby is supposed to  have more of those nice colored buckets in it to hall all his toys, but the kids like to load them up with stuff and take it upstairs or into another room.

There is no theme in his room.  When we switched to big boy, I took Little C to the store and said “pick out what you like”.  He chose the reversible blue comforter, the green curtains, and he has bright orange sheets you can’t see.  The art on the walls I painted of all his favorite characters.  No theme.  Not catalog.  Just real.

STUFF!

STUFF!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Now, you want to see the BEST comparison?  Hehehe!  Playrooms.

Catalog playrooms are laughable.  There is no play in them!

Kids, sit on that sofa and don't move a muscle!

Kids, sit on that sofa and don’t move a muscle!

Stark, bare, no toys . . . I’m sure they are all hiding where nobody can see them.  But playrooms should have clutter!  They need kid-made art on the walls!

I'm sorry Timmy, you aren't allowed to play with those toys.

I’m sorry Timmy, you aren’t allowed to play with those toys.

Why do they show a playroom where the kids cannot reach the majority of the toys?

 

Ok, you ready for this?  THIS is our playroom:

The only thing up high are their piggy banks and my movies

The only thing up high are their piggy banks and my movies

There are Legos EVERYWHERE!  You know what is really funny?  They just cleaned this room 2 days ago!  I’m not crazy obsessive about this room.  The way I see it, this is the one room where the boys run the show completely.  Their bedrooms need to be cleanish because otherwise they can’t have sleepovers, I can’t vacuum and the dog can’t sleep with them.  The playroom, while I do make them clean it, is always cluttered and rarely spotless.  It’s not for show, it’s for play.

My kids art work graces all the walls in their playroom

My kids art work graces all the walls in their playroom

We do use cubbies, but we don't feel the need to hide our toys either.

We do use cubbies, but we don’t feel the need to hide our toys either.

What’s my point here?  My point is this: Don’t beat yourself up when you flip through magazines or Pinterest or even most blogs.  It’s all for show.  The rooms are staged, there is no living in them and there are definitely no kids!  When you want to redo a room or organize a room, just think what will work best for YOUR family?  Can my kids reach the highest shelf?  Is it so themed that they will lose interest in that character/show/movie etc in a few months?

Thanks for visiting my lived in home!

Lets Try This Again!

1 Jul

Wow, I am SO sorry I disappeared again for another 3 months!  I promise it won’t happen again!

 

Life flipped upside down and inside out over the past year and I just didn’t have time for blogging, or cleaning . . . cooking . . . sleeping.  Ahem, anyway, I’m back.  Again.

Having started a new chapter in life and making several very large and somewhat scary changes, I’ve decided to take this blog in a slightly different direction as well.  I will still share craft how-tos, recipes and fun activities for kids, but there will be more to it than that.  More glimpses into my life and my family and more story telling.  It will be fun!

Due to health issues I’ve become a stay home mom, which is something I never expected for myself.  I loved working (even though I spent more time at the office than I did at home) I’d work all day, pick up the kids from school and daycare, cook supper and then I’d be spent.  Most nights I was in bed before the boys!  I didn’t feel like I was living my life, but rather floating through the motions of life.  I felt like someone was pulling me around, forcing me to move.  If I didn’t have that pull, I wouldn’t have been able to get out of bed and do the things I needed to do!

Every weekend I would do my best to enjoy the boys (Big A just turned 9!  Little C isn’t so little anymore at 4 1/2)  If I was having a “good day” I would try to fit in as much as possible.  “Hey kids, lets go to the zoo, have a picnic at the park, go fishing and then come home and play 16 board games!” I felt like I needed to make up for all the nights I was in bed by 7:30.   If I was having a “bad day” (which are more frequent than the latter) I would let the kids watch too much tv, we’d lay around in our pajamas all day.  I felt like I needed those 2 days to recover from the week so that I could get up on Monday and do it all over again.  That is no way to live.

After a LOT of thinking, worrying and number crunching, the Hubby and I decided it would be best if I quit my job and focused on taking care of myself.  The hope was that if I wasn’t working 40-50 hours a week and exhausting myself daily that I’d have fewer “bad days”.  I haven’t had much time to test that theory because a little over a week ago I had a procedure (RFA or Radio Frequency Ablation)  to burn off the nerves in 6 places in my spine to try and reduce the amount of pain I can feel.  That procedure is miserable!    I had the RFA about 3 years ago in 2 places in my spine and it took weeks to feel normal, only to discover later on that the doctor I was seeing at the time had not done the procedure in the right places but that is a whole different story!

The good thing is that I am home with my boys, good day or bad day, I can enjoy them and watch them play and grow.  I feel like I’ve missed out a lot due to my health and my pain, having to miss excursions and day trips or cancel plans because it’s too hot outside.  (Heat and humidity make me physically ill due to my Fibromyalgia)

Now I can focus on being a wife and a mother and on understanding my pain and disabilities with the hopes of my life better.

the 2 reasons I am here

the 2 reasons I am here