A few days ago I was perusing Pinterest, not really looking for anything in particular. I started looking at the home decor pins and then, out of sheer curiosity, searched “kids rooms”. I scrolled through the various pictures of themed bedrooms, incredible one-of-a-kind beds and rooms with things like swings, slides and rock walls (my kids would never sleep!) I began to think about my kids bedrooms and my friends kids bedrooms. How eclectic they were, even when they had a theme. These catalog rooms as I like to call them, are unrealistic! I cannot imagine giving my kids one theme, for instance. “Oh you like cars? Ok, we will have a car shaped bed that you will only use for a short time, car bedding and fancy curtains with car tiebacks. Maybe we will paint a road on your floor too. Oh and you can’t hang anything on your walls because I have meticulously placed car artwork and that is all that can be hung. And don’t take out any toys.”
I know the majority of these rooms are staged by designers . . . but they set unattainable goals for parents wishing to give there little cherubs their dream room. A room that the kids will be so enamored with they will just sit on their perfectly made castle-shaped bed and stare at the walls, smiling for hours. As parents, we want our kids to have everything. We want them to be cozy and happy. Maybe we, even if secretly, want to one-up that snooty mom from the PTA who brags about her kids and how they have beds shaped like tree houses or pizza or whatever. Maybe we want to be that Pinterest mom or dad. The one who blogs about there immaculate home and pins pictures of perfect rooms and fabulous DIYs that never go awry.
Maybe not. I don’t have that dream of having the”perfect” home. My home is perfect for my family. It’s not fancy or designed to belong in a Better Homes and Gardens spread. I know I’ve shared pictures in the past of the boys rooms when I’ve done projects in them, but I wanted to share my lived in real rooms. I didn’t stage them for you, I didn’t take out all their toys before I snapped the pictures. These aren’t fake rooms, these are real rooms that belong to real boys. They did clean their rooms last night, so at least you don’t have to see Big A’s dirty laundry all over the floor or the entire contents of Little C’s books shelf scattered across the room because he was looking for a specific book.
First, here are the “catalog rooms” for comparison:
See what I mean? kids don’t live in these rooms! Not unless they are extremely OCD and never leave a single out of place ever.
Here are the boys lived in rooms:
Notice the lack of a theme? Well a few years ago it was loosely Star Wars. About a year and a 1/2 ago I painted the Lego Ninajas for the wall. For his birthday I painted the creeper from Minecraft. . . so it’s a mishmash.
He’s got his own style, you know . . . that of a 9yr old boy! He hangs stuff on the walls with tape, usually leaves his soccer uniform on the floor, stinky socks and all. On the little wall shelves hang various medals from sports and school. A few trophies on the ledge. There are birthday balloons left over from his party a few weeks ago. This is not a catalog room. It’s my son’s room.
Little C’s room went from baby to big boy. He sleeps with just shy of a thousand stuffed animals, his “guys”, and way too many blankets! His bookshelf is a cluttered mess! His cubby is supposed to have more of those nice colored buckets in it to hall all his toys, but the kids like to load them up with stuff and take it upstairs or into another room.
There is no theme in his room. When we switched to big boy, I took Little C to the store and said “pick out what you like”. He chose the reversible blue comforter, the green curtains, and he has bright orange sheets you can’t see. The art on the walls I painted of all his favorite characters. No theme. Not catalog. Just real.
Now, you want to see the BEST comparison? Hehehe! Playrooms.
Catalog playrooms are laughable. There is no play in them!
Stark, bare, no toys . . . I’m sure they are all hiding where nobody can see them. But playrooms should have clutter! They need kid-made art on the walls!
Why do they show a playroom where the kids cannot reach the majority of the toys?
Ok, you ready for this? THIS is our playroom:
There are Legos EVERYWHERE! You know what is really funny? They just cleaned this room 2 days ago! I’m not crazy obsessive about this room. The way I see it, this is the one room where the boys run the show completely. Their bedrooms need to be cleanish because otherwise they can’t have sleepovers, I can’t vacuum and the dog can’t sleep with them. The playroom, while I do make them clean it, is always cluttered and rarely spotless. It’s not for show, it’s for play.
What’s my point here? My point is this: Don’t beat yourself up when you flip through magazines or Pinterest or even most blogs. It’s all for show. The rooms are staged, there is no living in them and there are definitely no kids! When you want to redo a room or organize a room, just think what will work best for YOUR family? Can my kids reach the highest shelf? Is it so themed that they will lose interest in that character/show/movie etc in a few months?
Thanks for visiting my lived in home!